Onyx and I have settled in to a remarkably comfortable D/s dynamic. We have talked extensively about it, but the difference this time is that it just clicks, for lack of a better term. All the background issues that were making so much noise the last time we were trying these power roles have been [...]
At some point before I’ve talked about relationship needs, that is the needs of the relationship, but in the last few months something that has been extremely important for me to realize has been a different sort of relationship need, that is, a lack of need. When I was younger a relationship or, more accurately, [...]
Image from The Adipositivity Project This is the tenth of many posts with answers to my Size & Sexuality Study questions within them. The responses have not been edited in any way. I hope you find them as interesting and informative as I have. I have gotten a huge number of responses already and I [...]
If there were a Venn-diagram for non-monogamous relationships it would probably start as a big circle for non-monogamy. Inside that would be polyamory and inside that would be polyfidelity. Each of these circles would be blurry or maybe dotted lines instead of hard ones. Each circle would overlap with multiple other relationship configurations and various [...]
I’ve been trying more vigorously to finish Opening Up by Tristan Taormino which, if you don’t know, is all about non-monogamy. I started it months ago but have yet to finish it because I keep picking up other books in the meantime (mostly ones I have to review). In Opening Up defining a relationship is [...]
The more I look back over the comments on this post, you know the one, the one I wrote about already, the more I think I reacted poorly. And, well, I’m sure I did, as all my reactions were emotional reactions, either a “ouch I’m hurt” reaction or a “I offended you, I’m bad, I’m [...]
My heart hurts a little. I woke up yesterday to an attack on my gender, which if you follow me on twitter you’ve probably already heard about. I wrote a post not too long ago on The Femme’s Guide about my newfound femme fagette identity, my multigendered femme identity and I was hoping for a [...]
Here’s a snippit of my latest post on The Femme’s Guide, though you’ll have to go there to finish it. Much by accident I just came across this quote: Marilyn was revered as a tigress, but she was loved (and pitied) as a kitten. In that sense her sexuality did not present a challenge; vulnerability [...]
So I, basically, shun the word “slave” as many of you may know, and yet I still use the term Master. I’ve been thinking about this a lot lately, and the more I think about it the less I like the term “Master.” It implies some of the same things that “slave” does, only from [...]
Semantics Sunday is the day for me to write my own definition of a word, how I feel about a word, and how it relates to me personally and my own identities. This could be anything sexual, gender, bdsm, and poly/relationship oriented, or anything else I feel like throwing in. This is simply my definition [...]
Had cupcakes from @cupcakeroyale for breakfast and soon will have some from @trophycupcakes for dessert,it has been a good birthday by proxy [ScarletLotus]
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Had an amazingly wonderful day with @virgolotus [ScarletLotus]
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Cupcakes for breakfast with @virgolotus (and a mint chocolate mocha)! http://twitpic.com/219c6n [ScarletLotus]
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Shared ScarletLotus: http://twitpic.com/219c6n Cupcakes for breakfast with @virgolotus (and a mint chocolate mocha)!.
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Hooray! I'm excited too!!! RT @virgolotus: Going to Seattle tonight! Yay! So excited! [ScarletLotus]
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