Terms Don't Dictate a Relationship

I’ve been trying more vigorously to finish Opening Up by Tristan Taormino which, if you don’t know, is all about non-monogamy. I started it months ago but have yet to finish it because I keep picking up other books in the meantime (mostly ones I have to review).
In Opening Up defining a relationship is [...]

April 6th, 2009 by Scarlet Lotus St. Syr
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Finding Harmony in My Gender Fluidity

There are so many ways to play with and express gender and gender deviance, from subtle to in-your-face and everywhere in between. What I’ve been trying to figure out in the last few weeks is how to reconcile my femme and fagette identities into a conceivable whole. I’m often not sure it’s even [...]

March 14th, 2009 by Scarlet Lotus St. Syr
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Size & Sexuality Study – slf

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This is the eighth of many posts with answers to my Size & Sexuality Study questions within them. The responses have not been edited in any way. I hope you find them as interesting and informative as I have. I have gotten a huge number of responses already and I [...]

March 14th, 2009 by Scarlet Lotus St. Syr
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My Kinky Stocking from FetLife!

The contents of my Kinky Christmas Stocking from FetLife! Click for larger version.
Near the end of last month I posted about the wonderful kinky networking site FetLife giving away 40 amazing Kinky Christmas Stockings. Since I am a FetLife Greeter I was lucky enough to receive a Kinky Christmas Stocking of my very own [...]

January 29th, 2009 by Scarlet Lotus St. Syr
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FetLife Kinky Christmas Stockings!

I adore FetLife. For those of you who don’t know, I’m also a FetLife Greeter, which means I send out messages to new members that are assigned to me welcoming them to FetLife. I’ve been a greeter since the beginning of July.
I became a greeter because of FetLife itself, because it truly is [...]

December 23rd, 2008 by Scarlet Lotus St. Syr
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Go PoMo!

I seriously want a shirt that says “Go PoMo!” now. How I hadn’t seen this video before today is beyond me, but thanks to the PoMoSexual group on FetLife I discovered it today, and will forever be on my list of favorite videos, much like Fagette. It also helped me discover PomoWorld.com, which [...]

October 8th, 2008 by Scarlet Lotus St. Syr
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An Introduction

Hi there,
Long time reader, first time poster.
I’m Onyx, Scarlet’s oft-mentioned Dominus and new guest blogger here on the femmeinist fucktoy blog. I hope to contribute occasionally to this site in order to offer a different, but hopefully complementary perspective on many of the issues Scarlet covers and hope that I have some thoughts [...]

September 7th, 2008 by Onyx V St. Syr
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FetLife Encourages Great Snark

I just have to share this. I recently greeted someone on FetLife and got this email back:
Thank you for the message. We are close in states.
Do you have Big Tits and Big Ass?
So, I (of course) had to reply after reading his profile which simply reads:
I am new to lifestyle. Like Big Tits, [...]

August 19th, 2008 by Scarlet Lotus St. Syr
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Ode to FetLife

While most of you have probably encountered or signed up on FetLife already, I am long overdue on a post about it. I have mentioned it in a few other posts already, but not quite done a direct “why I love FetLife” post, and now that I am an Official FetLife Greeter (with a [...]

July 3rd, 2008 by Scarlet Lotus St. Syr
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