Onyx and I have settled in to a remarkably comfortable D/s dynamic. We have talked extensively about it, but the difference this time is that it just clicks, for lack of a better term. All the background issues that were making so much noise the last time we were trying these power roles [...]
On Sunday after the rest of our weekend fun Onyx and I walked to Babeland here in Seattle for a workshop by Tristan Taormino. She called it Poly 201, basically the next level of information after her book Opening Up.
She talked about what does and does not make poly/non-monogamy work and started with a [...]
Another sort-of call for submissions, but surveys this time. These don’t take very long so I highly encourage you to take one or both depending on which categories you fit within.
This first one was found via Tristan Taormino’s twitter:
“The survey is intended for people who are involved in a romantic relationship. We will ask [...]
One year ago I wrote an introduction to Marla. We had already been talking for a few weeks previous to that. In so many ways it doesn’t seem like it has been a year, but in others it seems like it should have been far longer. Everything happened so quickly, she was [...]
At some point before I’ve talked about relationship needs, that is the needs of the relationship, but in the last few months something that has been extremely important for me to realize has been a different sort of relationship need, that is, a lack of need.
When I was younger a relationship or, more accurately, the [...]
Well, I’m officially moving back to Seattle. I have a one-way ticket for March 17th.
This seemed like an impossibility at the end of November, the end of the triad, and part of me is surprised at the way things turned out, yet I’m also not surprised.
I still feel guilty for the way things ended, [...]
Clutched by notoca
When the triad first started we talked a lot about how it would change my relationship with Onyx. We had to get rid of the monogamous-type relationship we had developed over the years and move into an open polyamorous one and then also to incorporating Marla into the mix. I talked [...]
Of all the pain and disaster of everything that has happened there have at least been some good things.
I have learned a lot, both about myself and about what I desire in another person. When forced to make a choice between Marla and Onyx I chose neither, and through that choice learned who was [...]
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Writing descriptions for workshops I would like to offer. Apparently I think all sexuality workshops should have a subtitle. [ScarletLotus]
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New on @Pleasurists number 79 is out! http://scarletlot.us/p79 [ScarletLotus]
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Suddenly craving Thai food. [ScarletLotus]
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Home from LLAA, was going to get some things at the grocery store but I forgot my wallet at home! Will go back after I finish @Pleasurists [ScarletLotus]
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At LLAA putting together packets with two HIV info cards, a packet of Pjur silicone lube, and a Crown condom. [ScarletLotus]
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