Making Open Relationships Work

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April 14th, 2010 by Scarlet Lotus St. Syr
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In the Middle

I started the draft of this post with this title months ago and had the intention to write about the juxtaposition of how wonderful it was to lay between the two of them and how horrible it was to be between them when something was going wrong. Of course the title takes on even [...]

November 22nd, 2009 by Scarlet Lotus St. Syr
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Leave Your Life-Stock Alone*

Fall seems to be the time for starting new projects–there have been A LOT of blogiversaries in the last month plus–and generally of taking stock of one’s life. Perhaps this is because we are coming inside from the crazyness that is summer and all the fun that goes along with that and need to [...]

November 10th, 2009 by Scarlet Lotus St. Syr
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Desire for One

I have abandonment issues. Though, really, doesn’t everyone to one extent or another? I think this is one of the biggest issues with poly for me, specifically moving from a V type relationship to a triad, I’m worried that my partners will find something they like in each other better than they like [...]

August 21st, 2009 by Scarlet Lotus St. Syr
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Sickeningly Sweet (HNT)

These were taken less than an hour before we all went to the airport last time she was here. A lot has happened since.

I think her latest post sums up quite a lot, and captures the excitement and fear we all are feeling for different reasons on her moving here. She will be [...]

July 2nd, 2009 by Scarlet Lotus St. Syr
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Emotional Roller Coasters

There have been so many things happening in the last week that I don’t really know where to start, but let’s see…
I’ll start with pointing you to the last few posts I did on this subject. Overflow about a week ago Thursday when I was overcome with emotion and broke down, unable to really [...]

May 1st, 2009 by Scarlet Lotus St. Syr
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Scared

What do I have to be scared of? What am I so nervous about things? What is it that triggers these feelings of worry and doubt in me? Why can’t I figure that out?
We all talked today, reassuring the others that our abandonment fears will not come to pass, as best we [...]

April 26th, 2009 by Scarlet Lotus St. Syr
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Finding the Next Step

I’m afraid she’s losing interest, and I’m afraid it’s all my fault.
This may be my paranoid insecurities talking, ’cause, hey, I have lots of those, but Onyx and I were talking the other night about Marla, specifically Marla and me and our lack of long-distance physical sexual anything which is rather important to where we [...]

March 24th, 2009 by Scarlet Lotus St. Syr
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