Making Open Relationships Work

If you are under the age of 18 please click here to leave. If you are 18+ you should know this blog contains frank and explicit discussion of sex, sexuality, queerness, gender, BDSM, polyamory/non-monogamy, and whatever else strikes my fancy. Based on this information or my blog in general you may or may not want [...]

April 14th, 2010 by Scarlet Lotus St. Syr
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Over the Weekend

This weekend was, in a word, amazing. Lots of sex, new friends, Tristan Taormino, and our first foursome. Though not in that order. Wait, though, I need to back up a bit. While I was in Juneau Onyx met Terra and her husband Storax. Onyx and Terra were attracted to each other and began talking, [...]

March 29th, 2010 by Scarlet Lotus St. Syr
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Desire for One

I have abandonment issues. Though, really, doesn’t everyone to one extent or another? I think this is one of the biggest issues with poly for me, specifically moving from a V type relationship to a triad, I’m worried that my partners will find something they like in each other better than they like in me [...]

August 21st, 2009 by Scarlet Lotus St. Syr
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Let's Talk About Sex

When did sex become such a big deal? I mean, don’t get me wrong, my spirituality is heavily tied in with sex and sexuality, and in many ways it is a big deal, but at the same time who cares. Sex is fun and I, personally, like my sex to have laughter and a feeling [...]

August 8th, 2009 by Scarlet Lotus St. Syr
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Emotional Roller Coasters

There have been so many things happening in the last week that I don’t really know where to start, but let’s see… I’ll start with pointing you to the last few posts I did on this subject. Overflow about a week ago Thursday when I was overcome with emotion and broke down, unable to really [...]

May 1st, 2009 by Scarlet Lotus St. Syr
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Scared

What do I have to be scared of? What am I so nervous about things? What is it that triggers these feelings of worry and doubt in me? Why can’t I figure that out? We all talked today, reassuring the others that our abandonment fears will not come to pass, as best we can for [...]

April 26th, 2009 by Scarlet Lotus St. Syr
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On the Transition from Mono to Poly to Triad

Onyx and I have been talking heavily the last few days and weeks regarding the things that are coming up in regard to our shifting from essentially a monogamous relationship to a polyamorous relationship and then into the triad we are trying to develop. Despite calling ourselves polyamorous since the beginning of our relationship Marla [...]

April 24th, 2009 by Scarlet Lotus St. Syr
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